I’m an introvert and I need to get a few guilty secrets off my chest.
I struggle with authenticity. By that, I don’t mean that I am not authentic. It is quite the opposite of that.
I struggle with pretending to be engaged by small talk that doesn’t interest me. I feel like I am acting when I am at a large social gathering, pretending to be happy to be there.
Living up to social expectations that I am not comfortable with can be overwhelming, and I can only keep it up for a short amount of time. …
Collectively, we are killing our writers.
And I am ashamed to be playing a leading role. Maybe you are too.
I will explain, but be warned. It will take me a while to get to the point. Please stick with it because I desperately need your help.
By trade, I am a teacher. Part of my role is to ensure that young people can communicate effectively in the written form. …
Have you ever been in a situation where you have been unsure whether a job is right for you? Maybe you feel that it is already lined up for someone else, you aren’t sure if the role is a good fit for your lifestyle, or you just have doubts that you are up to the job.
As someone who has interviewed and recruited hundreds of people over the years, my advice would be to go for it. There is a lot to be gained from the experience and simply taking part in the process can open up new, unexpected opportunities.
Most of us are interested to hear advice that is helpful to both our productivity and our chances of success. I don’t claim to be an expert in either but do have one small pearl of wisdom that has had a profound and positive impact on my life for many years now.
This little piece of advice seemed insignificant at the time, but it has proven to be really life-changing for me. It gave my career a turbo boost, helped me weather failures, and now is invaluable to me as a writer. …
Sometimes the writing community disappoints me.
I recently wrote an article about how the ‘grammar police’ are knocking the confidence of our writers. As with many of my pieces, I intended for it to be helpful to others, but I ended up learning an important lesson myself.
The article was one of my most read to date. However, the thing that struck me most about it was how much it seemed to resonate with people who were writing in English as a second language. …
It is a wonderful place on here. There are stories packed with interesting insights, great advice and entertaining anecdotes.
But there is a seedy underbelly of entitled writers that risk doing real damage to the supportive tone and forgetting the true purpose of this platform.
Here are a few home truths that we should all remind ourselves of from time to time.
This is someone else’s commercial venture and let’s face it, unless you are a multi-millionaire and a household name, then I’m guessing that they know a little more about business than you do.
At this point in my…
Hot weather can be uncomfortable at best but at its worst it can be a danger to life. In the summer months, heatstroke and dehydration can be a real risk to health.
So, what can be done when a heatwave strikes? Here are twelve tips to help you stay cool.
Electrical appliances generate heat and so the more that you have running, the hotter your house is likely to be. Turn of unnecessary appliances and gadgets to keep the additional heat to a minimum.
Halogen bulbs also generate a surprising amount of heat and so, where possible, replace these with…
You’ll be familiar with the scenario. You are stuck on a long commute or you are sat in a waiting room and your appointment is delayed for an indefinite period. A creeping feeling that you are wasting your time starts to eat away at you…
But is it possible that boredom can have benefits for us? Research suggests that this might be the case. But first of all, we need to learn a little more about boredom.
Boredom is difficult to quantify and therefore hard to measure. One method used by psychologists is the Boredom Proneness Scale which measures the…
It’s normal to want to be liked. Humans thrive on connection and so it seems natural to want to keep others happy. Surely, the best way to achieve that is to put the needs of others before you own, right?
People pleasing can be really harmful. And often it doesn’t result in pleasing anyone at all.
I can speak from experience because I have spent the majority of my life being a people pleaser myself, until I realised one deeply profound fact.
People pleasers are liars.
The first step to overcoming your people pleasing behaviours is to understand why…
How often do you hear a writer saying that they are thinking about giving up because they just can’t make enough money out of writing?
In the early days of a writer’s career, it can be difficult to earn enough money to sustain a decent lifestyle.
Many aspiring writers give up before they have experienced their first true taste of success.
But surprisingly, research indicates that the pursuit of money can actually be harmful to the writer and could lead them to be less productive in the long run.
One researcher who has looked at motivation is Daniel Pink. In…
I specialise in ghostwriting but write on Medium as myself. I am interested in education, social justice and the human condition.